My husband and I began our second Ethiopian adoption back in 2008. We had brought home our beautiful son in 2006. We wanted children so badly and fell in love with the country, the people, and of course our son. We knew our daughter was also ‘waiting’ for us there. Our story causes us heartbreak not only because of what happened to our child and her family but how selfish and naïve we were in hindsight, we genuinely didn’t know—we hadn’t found the forums.